Cheater Websites: Are Websites that Promote Infidelity and Cheating Wrong?

Wednesday, January 09, 2008

Cheater websites have become commonplace on the Internet. Websites such as ashleymadison and meet2cheat specialize in promoting discrete affairs between married and committed people. Make sure your partner is not frequenting these sites by checking their computer history. Also, watch for escort sites such as theeroticreview or bigdoggie to find out whether your husband or boyfriend is paying for prostitutes, perhaps endangering your health.

Studies which were conducted recently revealed that 45-55% of married women and 50-60% of married men engage in extramarital sex at some time or another during their relationship (Atwood & Schwartz,2002 – Journal of Couple & Relationship Therapy). According to a cheating poll of over 1,900 women conducted by, 39% felt that alibinetwork was the sleaziest website on the net, followed by adultfriendfinder, ashleymadison and fastseduction.

There are several ways for the cheater to cheat on the Internet and there are several degrees of cheating on the Internet as well. It is imperative to mention that the Internet is particularly successful in putting people in contact as it provides a way to interact with less inhibition than when meeting somebody in real life. Places to meet people on the internet are in the millions and they can be classified into the following categories: Chat rooms. (MSN and Yahoo are the most used); Friend networks. (Hi5 and Orkut are very popular); Direct contact through chat profiles. (Looking through the profiles of MSN members); Sites to match couples (Perfectmatch, match, etc) and Relationship sites (Passion, Adult Friend Finder, etc). It is important to note that not everyone who chats or even meet in real life is a cheater. The Internet is a great and wonderful resource but we all must take responsibility on how we use it.

Finally, there is another set of people, especially those who live in different towns, who practices cyber-sex. Cyber-sex involves into phone sex slowly, but the chances of cheating are less probable as they need to travel to meet each other. Even more, experienced cheaters will contact people in those places where they know they will be traveling soon. Married and committed people who utilize cheater websites want to have their cake and to eat it too. Unfortunately, this is always unbeknownst to the unsuspecting partner. Sites like Ashley Madison tap into a very profitable place within the online personals arena by bringing honesty to the dishonest practice of cheating. They allow people an alternative to a traditional personals site where they may have to lie and say they are single, thus giving potential mates the wrong impression—yet they make light of lying to a spouse or partner.

Married people seem to seek other married people to give themselves a sense of added security in an inherently insecure position. Their preference to cheat within their own camp is based on assumptions about people with spouses: They will not demand too much of the other person”s time; they will be less invested in the relationship since they already have one; they are more understanding about a last-minute cancellation because the wife is sick and the kids need to go to soccer practice. Ideally, all those things are true, but in the real world, there are no guarantees and having everything out in the open does not mean there won”t be drama. These assumptions make all married people out to be normal and stable, and all single people end up looking like needy, unreasonable fools with no boundaries desperate to fall in love and break up a marriage.

By Stephany Alexander