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How to Find Out If Your Spouse Is Using a Dating App?

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According to The General Survey that spanned 16 years, 76% of American adults consider extramarital sex as “always wrong”. Still, 21% of men and 13% of women admit to infidelity at some point during their relationships. Regardless of surveys, statistics, and outside beliefs, most people feel extreme pain and betrayal over the discovery of a cheating spouse. Technology has made it easier than ever to find evidence of that betrayal, but it also makes it easier than ever to cheat in the first place. So then, how can you find out if your spouse is using a dating app?

Access Shared Devices and Check Browser History

Most dating websites also have mobile app options. So if you see browsing history on any shared device, you can be assured your partner is probably also accessing them on the go. If you know their Google or Apple sign-in information, you can access their browser history on any compatible device that way as well. Just don’t hack into a locked or private device on your own because that’s illegal and not permissible as legal evidence. Sometimes the wording doesn’t give the context away for dating or cheating websites, but other times the purpose of the website is completely clear. Look for websites or app history for site names such as:

  • AdultFriendFinder
  • AshleyMadison
  • BeNaughty
  • Bumble
  • Eharmony
  • EliteSingles
  • Flirt
  • FriendFinder
  • Grindr
  • HAA
  • Loveaholics
  • MarriedCafe
  • Match
  • NoStringsAttached
  • QuickFlirt
  • TigerText
  • Tinder
  • VaultyStocks

Hit Google and Reverse Image Search

Hopefully, nothing will show up in the history search. But that still doesn’t guarantee your spouse isn’t trying to get lucky elsewhere. Google can be their worst enemy in that case. The same can be true for any other browser or search engine you or your spouse may prefer to use. Regardless of which search engine is used, run their name, email address(es), and phone number in the search bar and see what comes up. You can also put any profile picture from their social media accounts or any recent pictures you prefer into Google’s reverse image search to see if they’re on any other sites they haven’t told you about. 

Join Popular Dating Sites to Investigate

Feel free to investigate on your own. But don’t join as “yourself”. The last thing you’ll want to deal with while confronting your spouse of cheating is for them to turn it around with proof of you doing the same. Create your own fake profile and adjust it to your spouse’s personal and love interests. Type in your spouse’s features to link your own preferences and see if his name or image pops up. Then let the app do its work to connect you.

Hire a Private Investigator 

Before rushing into what family, friends, co-workers, or an online connection suggest you do, consider what’s actually safe and legal in your situation and state. Unfortunately, several legal nuances over privacy can come back to bite you even if you find evidence that your spouse is using a dating app. It may, in that case, simply be more constructive and effective to hire a private investigator. Give us a call when you’re ready to discuss your options.

5 Physical Signs Your Wife is Cheating

Signs Your Wife is Cheating

According to a major nine-year study on extramarital affairs, approximately 25% of Americans admit to cheating on their spouse at one point. While men, in general, are more likely to do so (or at least admit to it), women are nipping at their heels. There can be many reasons for you to suspect your partner is unfaithful. But when it comes to actual clues, there are several physical signs that may indicate or even confirm your wife is cheating.

She’s Distant or Picks Fights

All couples go through lulls. But one major red flag to pay attention to is how your wife reacts to you in basic conversation outside of major life stress or hormonal peaks. If she’s consistently disinterested in anything you say or worse, gets irritated by the sound of your voice, that can be a sign she’s connecting outside of the marriage. That distance and irritation can also often lead to the adulterer picking fights out of annoyance.

Habits Have Shifted

Whether your wife is physically or emotionally cheating, splitting your life in two takes a toll on anybody. Coping mechanisms often change and not for the best. Obvious signs of guilt and attempting to cope can be shopping or spending changes, smoking or drinking habits increase, or there’s a new sign of binge eating. Fitness-focused spousal signs can be harder to notice, but they’re still there in most cases. Does she go to the gym more often or do the shopping sprees include sexy clothes and new lingerie splurges? If she’s not wearing them for you, she’s likely planning to wear them for someone else.

Her Phone is Constantly Protected

Most people have locks and privacy settings on their phones to keep their business and personal conversations private. Unless you’ve had access to your partner’s phone in the past, that’s probably the situation on both ends of the relationship. That doesn’t necessarily mean your partner is doing anything nefarious. They may just value their privacy and security. However, if you have had access to your wife’s phone activities before and that’s recently changed, it can be a clear physical sign your wife is cheating. Pay attention to her body language when she’s texting or using messaging apps, and make a note of the times her phone is most active and guarded.

Intimacy Has Shut Down

Relationships ebb and flow and intimacy and sex can be sporadic at times. However, pay attention to how the intimacy actually feels when it’s offered or presented. Are the hugs warm and cuddles comforting? Or do simple touches feel cold, and intimacy feel like you’re hugging your sister or great-aunt Sally? Your partner is supposed to be your safe place. If sex is non-existent (or nearly) and intimacy is cold, your wife may be getting that elsewhere.

Her Body Language Has Changed

If your partner isn’t polyamorous or a narcissist, she probably has a good amount of pent-up guilt for having an affair. Your wife may be a world-class liar when it comes to communicating verbally but watch her actions. Does she make and maintain eye contact? Are her arms crossed when talking about her activities? Is she generally fidgety and stiff? Those are all signs there’s a lot more behind her claims. If you’re still unsure, give us a call to connect with an infidelity investigation professional and get the answers you need and deserve.

Catch a Cheating Spouse: There’s an App for That

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Most people feel that cheating is wrong, and yet up to 40% of married couples face some type of infidelity during the relationship. Outstanding personal and marital issues are almost always a precursor of infidelity, and intuition can be a strong sign that something is seriously amiss. However, intuition is tricky and can’t be relied upon when it’s overthought. That’s because it’s probably not intuition at that point. Anxiety provides the same triggering feelings and overwhelming physical reactions once those thoughts become consistent or obsessive. Modern tech makes it easier to hide an affair, but certain apps can also help you catch a cheating spouse on your own… or at least discover the truth. But where do you start?

Hoverwatch

Hoverwatch supports Android and Mac systems. It has a free trial and covers most of the activities the typical smartphone user would potentially try to hide from their spouse. Hoverwatch is invisible as it tracks SMS, call, text, and audio history. It also discloses social media activity, web browser history, contacts, and calendar information. Hoverwatch also offers a GPS option so you can see exactly where they go. Subscriptions for full pack usage on one device ranges between $11.99 and $49.99 per month. 

iKeyMonitor

iKeyMonitor is completely free for the basic plan. Add-on-demand features start at $9.99 per month. iKeyMonitor provides chat, text, and call monitoring. The app offers geofencing, email alerts, and time limits for those who also want to use this app as parental controls. And it downloads and sets up easily for Android and iOS devices.

mSpy

mSpy is one of the best tracking and key logging apps available for both Android and iOS. It offers a free trial option to dabble in some of its most basic features, and subscription options of $29.99 or $69.99 to get the most out of the app. mSpy is fully functional and legal as a parental control app or cheating app. It works in background mode, so it’s undetectable for average smartphone users. And it provides updates on the targeted phone every five minutes or based on a chosen schedule by the person tracking. However, it doesn’t work on phones older than 2011.

pcTattletale

pcTattletale is marketed as a workplace productive app that checks on employees. It also works well as a child monitor, and of course, a cheating app. pcTattletale runs in the background, so it’s completely undetectable. It monitors all social media, emails, web browsing, text messages, video games, and other popular phone or device-related activities. There’s a free trial option. And there’s a one-time annual fee that covers a full year for up to three devices.

uMobix

uMobix runs in stealth mode and is compatible with Android and iOS devices. Like all the other apps listed, it has a free trial option, but it does cost beyond that, and the prices range between $29.99 and $59.99 per month. uMobix monitors texts, calls, even deleted ones, messaging apps, social media accounts, mobile browsing, photo and video tracking, app and browser blocking, and more. Regardless of which app you choose, you’ll need access to the Android device or login credentials for the Apple cloud user you want to track in order to download the app and gain control. If that’s too risky or too much effort on your part, just give ASG Investigations a call to connect with the right private investigation services for your needs, and we’ll get the answers for you.

Do Women Cheat More Than Men?

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Relationships can be wonderful, but all romantic relationships hit rocky stages. Dissatisfaction, neglect, jealousy, goal or personality differences, parenting disputes, and financial issues can all play a part in cracking even the most solid foundation. Once upon a time, the term infidelity had far more serious implications leading to people whispering and consistently pointing fingers at the male partner. Of course, sensible people know and accept the fact that the man isn’t always the culprit. But do women cheat more than men?

What Actually Constitutes “Cheating”?

Infidelity is generally defined by intimate acts sought or received elsewhere that pose a threat to a committed relationship. In most cases, true cheating is believed to involve physical activity. However, that’s not the case for many couples. And sometimes, physical cheating isn’t even the most harmful type of infidelity. The actual definition of cheating depends on the couple itself. If you feel flirting and a wandering eye is cheating, then it is.

If you think your partner secretly texting a coworker in secret or after work hours or maintaining friendships with exes and secretly messaging them on social media is cheating, then that’s infidelity as well… as long as you and your partner are aware of your beliefs and limits. The main types of clinical infidelity are physical and emotional infidelity. Both types can result in deep emotional and psychological connections with the outside partner. Also, in both cases, the “cheating” can result in serious relationship neglect and a complete relationship breakdown.

What Are the Main Reasons Women Cheat?  

Men and women may seem like apples and oranges on a variety of topics. But they’re both still human with the same human drives and needs. Women, however, are typically more mentally and emotionally charged and expressive in their sexual and relationship drives than men. The main reasons women cheat include:

  • Late response or re-enactment of childhood abuse or trauma
  • Intense or consistent loneliness/low self-esteem
  • They’re overwhelmed by their current relationship or home life
  • Their relationship needs aren’t being met
  • Neglect, lack of appreciation, and/or poor sex life
  • They lack and crave intimacy

Do Women Really Cheat More Than Men?

Several legitimate and competently sourced studies can be found pointing fingers at either gender as leading infidelity statistics. But the truth is, it’s really subjective and quite balanced. Of course, that all depends on location, personal situation, age, and whether those polled are being honest. According to Institute for Family Studies, the percentage of male cheaters over a 16-year study is slightly higher in all age groups, except in women between 18 and 29. Young female millennials cheated 1% more than males in that same age group. Surprisingly, the largest gap was between men and women over the age of 80 with women of that age group cheating less than anyone else in the U.S.

What Can You Do If You Think Your Partner Is Cheating?

Cheating is a dangerous and harmful act regardless of who steps outside of the relationship. If you believe your partner is cheating, don’t wait too long to verify your concerns. You can do some things on your own like search bank records and public social media accounts. But diving too deeply could result in wasted time and extra headaches. Instead, give us a call to hire a private investigator and get the answers you need and deserve.

5 Ways to Catch a Cheating Spouse

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Everyone occasionally has sweaty palms, a sinking stomach, a flash of clarity, or recurring feelings about a person or situation in life. Those signs can be a gut feeling or intuition. When intuition strikes, it shouldn’t immediately be ignored. After all, true intuition can be right up to 90% of the time, at least at the moment. However, anxiety and paranoia can also provide the same signs and feelings, especially when you’re dealing with a potentially cheating spouse. Fortunately, there are some easy ways to catch the cheater for good, so you can stop feeling like you’re going crazy or being gaslighted.

Surprise Visit

Most spouses know each other’s schedules and have specific times during the day when they reconnect and spend their family time. But if your spouse is cheating, it’s especially important to him or her that you stick to that schedule. And that’s precisely why you should mix it up! Head over to their workplace for a surprise lunch date. Pack a picnic basket or have reservations set for a special restaurant to cover your tracks. After all, it could actually result in a nice romantic date. But it could also reveal a coworker crush or hidden infidelity.

Engage in Smart Snooping

Almost all Americans today, approximately 97%, own some type of cellphone. And 85% of those are smartphones. Technology makes it much easier to catch a cheating spouse. If you’re going to check on them via technology, keep it simple. Check their phone for hidden or new contacts. Scan their text messages and messaging accounts for intimate or indecent content. And check their social media accounts for new contacts or favorites.

Keep a Journal

Gaslighters get their kicks by using psychological manipulation to confuse their partners and make them doubt their sanity. Many cheaters are experienced or pathological liars. It’s easy to get confused about details when you don’t have them written down in front of you. So document the important things. Keep dates, times, bank records, credit card transactions, and even car mileage in a journal for easy access. A cheating spouse may be able to make you question your emotions, but they can’t ignore documented facts.

Follow Your Gut… Literally

As a last-ditch approach after you have plenty of evidence, you can potentially follow your spouse on your own or enlist a friend for some easy surveillance. However, at no time should you ever attempt this if it might put you or a loved one in danger. If following is a safe option, use a different vehicle or even two if available. Disguise your appearance somewhat, even if you just don a wig, hat, or hairpiece. And never do anything illegal such as trespassing or breaking and entering to get “proof”.

Hire a Private Investigator

The best-laid plans can easily blow up in your face, and even hard-earned evidence can be tossed out of court on legal technicalities. Sometimes, it’s just best to leave it to the pros. The right private investigator for cheating spouses can get the evidence and surveillance you need without sacrificing your time, sanity, or security. Give us a call when you’re ready to get the facts and find out once and for all if you’re dealing with a cheating spouse.

5 Reasons Why Your Husband’s Affair Won’t Last

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Everyone’s On Their Best Behavior

How many happy romantic relationships do you currently know of that began from infidelity? If you’re like most people, that list isn’t very long. According to some statistics, up to 7% of relationships that begin as affairs result in a future marriage for the couple, and a whopping 75% of those that do make it to the aisle also end up in divorce court. Of course, there are always exceptions and your mom’s best friend’s hairdresser may be happily married to the love of her life who left his wife for her 20 years ago. But again, those aren’t commonplace. Here are five reasons why your husband’s affair probably won’t last.

When you first meet someone you’re attracted to and interested in, common sense can fly right out the window. All of a sudden, you want to be a beacon of light for that person. And in return, they see you as a slice of perfection. You can stop laughing now, especially if you’ve been married for a while. We all know that eventually ends. But when a partner is cheating, they’re not bringing their problems right into the new relationship; they’re actually sweeping them under the rug. Eventually, they’re going to build up and make quite a mess.

The Cheating Partners Don’t Really Know Each Other

Shared misery, frustrations in committed partners, and excitement for change can act as a trifecta to bond a cheating couple. But that change can act as the strongest glue. Your husband may be focused on the differences at first and feel excited about what the future may hold. But he hasn’t changed. Moreover, he may not truly be attracted to all the differences, they’re simply amplified at the moment. That can get old really fast once the pair realize they’ve taken on more than they can handle.

Lies and Deceit Surround the Relationship

According to a national study spanning three decades, 20% of married couples have admitted to cheating. And based on gender statistics, men lead the ranks for almost all age groups, topping off at the randiest bunch being senior citizens. While grandpa may be getting his groove back, cheating and lies go hand-in-hand, at least at first. Even if he comes clean to his mistress relatively quickly, the continued lies he builds at home and around their time together are bound to take a toll on their relationship.

The Honeymoon Eventually Ends

When you first feel an attraction and start to fall in love, those feelings of butterflies and warm fuzzies aren’t necessarily your soul instantly finding its mate. Those feelings are actually due to the production and release of oxytocin, also known as the “love hormone”. The naturally occurring brain chemical is highly responsible for human connection and relationship-building.  Researchers have discovered that the first stages of a relationship involve higher levels of oxytocin. But those levels fade after about 18 months. If the affair was based initially on physical or sexual attraction, the relationship is likely to dry up after the oxytocin does.

Coping Styles and Destructive Behaviors Remain

All affairs contain some type or level of escapism. The cheater may have attempted to make things work in the relationship without success, or he may have ducked and run straight into another’s arms. Either way, they likely haven’t truly worked on their own destructive behaviors and coping mechanisms to stressful relationship situations. Chances are when the going gets tough with the new flame, they’ll just duck and run again… and maybe right back to you. Give us a call to connect with a cheating spouse private investigator and reclaim control of your life.

Workplace Infidelity: How to Catch a Cheating Spouse

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All relationships take consistent effort and communication to work. Still, over 20% of marriages face cheating concerns and surveys and studies continually show men most often instigate the damage. This is especially true at the office where workplace infidelity is known to blossom and flourish. Fortunately, there are some tips and strategies to help you catch a cheating spouse, so you’re not blindsided by your partner’s actions or betrayal.

Pay Attention to Their Work Attitude

Most spouses and significant others discuss, complain, and vent about work situations and/or coworkers. A moderate amount of venting is completely healthy, especially when leaning on your chosen partner. However, sudden changes in those discussions can indicate something fishy is going on. Perhaps your partner has just gotten into a good groove at work. But they could also have indulged in a bout of workplace infidelity. Changes in scheduling and extending work hours can also signal a problem.

Notice Their Personal Improvements

Personal development and improvements can be wonderful objectives for both you and your spouse at any time during your marriage. After all, who doesn’t like to feel more attractive, leaner, and more appreciated by themselves and their significant other? However, there are usually reasons for those changes, and as a spouse, you should know the major reason for those changes.

Check Their Net and Phone Usage

Approximately 97% of Americans own a cellphone, and 85% of those phones are smartphones. That means the majority of Americans have instant access to their phone and text contacts, coworkers, email, social media accounts, and work login info at any moment of the day or night. While that’s great for staying connected and maintaining important life demands, it also makes it a lot easier to maintain flirtation or an affair with a coworker. If your spouse keeps their phone locked, takes it wherever they go, or their phone and net usage are interfering with your marriage, their job duties may not be the only reason.

Visit Their Work Unexpectedly

According to research, over 60% of affairs begin in the workplace. Most spouses involved in those affairs are from relatively happy homes and admit they never believed they would engage in the behavior. But proximity, extensive work hours, and eventual emotional connection and sharing can be the primary factors in workplace infidelity. Most of the time, a cheater will go out of their way to ensure their spouse avoids their primary meeting place. If your spouse is insisting you never visit their work or only around certain times, a surprise visit may be in order to discover the real reason why. 

Recognize Home Behavioral Changes and Gaslighting

Sudden changes, both good and bad, can indicate a cheating spouse as well. Pay close attention to any significant behavioral changes when you’re around them. Unwarranted irritation, picking fights, and blaming you for things you’re not responsible for–a light form of gaslighting–are common for cheating spouses. But they might also be more affectionate or attentive as well. Even being more active or adventurous in bed without a clear reason can be a result of guilt or an attempt to through you off the trail. If your intuition is buzzing and you don’t want to play detective on your own, simply hire a private investigator. Give us a call to get the answers you need.

Women vs. Men: Who is More Likely to Cheat?

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Most Americans have had the terms “for better or worse, for richer or poorer, and in sickness and health” beat into their brains from an early age. But no one really adds, “and until you cheat on me or I catch vibes you’ve been busy elsewhere” to their wedding vows. That’s because marriage vows are meant to provide a positive promise of what you’ll give, not a reminder of your limits. Of course, people change and according to nationwide statistics, over 40% of couples cheat and marital infidelity is the primary cause of up to 40% of divorces. But do men cheat more or do women cheat more likely to cheat and what can you do about it?

Aren’t Men Just the Worst?

Now, hold on ladies before you get your pitchforks out. It is true that in the past we were socially conditioned to at least mentally hold men responsible for marital breakdown when adultery was involved. Movies and media still often hop on the man-blame train when and where cheating is concerned. But the gender-related cheating gap isn’t as wide as it used to be, and it really comes down to age at this point, according to statistics. A major social survey conducted over a 5-year period discovered the younger the couple, the closer the gap. In fact, there was only a 1% difference in the number of male versus female marital cheaters within the 18 to 29-year-old age bracket. Women held the lead there with marital infidelity. The trend widens with age, however, resulting in 24% of males versus 8% of female cheating spouses in the randy 80-year-old bracket. 

Why Do Men and Women Cheat at All?

Men and Women may have similar relationship needs, but they tend to cheat for very different reasons. Most people think men cheat primarily for physical gratification. While dissatisfaction at home can definitely play a part, most men actually cheat simply because they feel they can get away with it. And they don’t always cheat “UP”. According to psychologist Robert Rodriguez, approximately 10% of happily married men cheat on their pregnant wives.

That even includes men who find their wives more attractive when they advance in pregnancy. Women, on the other hand, don’t crave excitement as much as they crave peace and connection. Whether their marital infidelity is physical or emotional, they’re drawn to adoration, communication, empathy, and support. Therefore, women tend to cheat “UP”, finding a more suitable mate due to the affair.

What Can You Do if You Discover Or Suspect Marital Infidelity?

Intuition is often spot-on when it comes to marital infidelity. So if you suspect your partner’s cheating, you may be onto something. Pay attention and get your emotions in check. Think about what you need to move forward with proof and with your own happiness. If you’re scared or nervous about gathering information alone, call us to hire a private investigator. We can get the proof you need to help you decide the next best course of action or simply move on with your life.

3 Ways to Catch a Cheating Spouse

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Maintaining a positive and productive marriage can be challenging. But when signs suggest you’re living with a cheating spouse, the institution can become unbearable. A recent study has discovered that U.S. divorce rates have fallen to record lows of less than 15 divorces in every 1,000 marriages. That’s great for the nation overall, but adultery is still one of the top reasons for divorce. Fortunately, there are some pretty solid ways to catch a cheating spouse.

Go Into Sleuth Mode at Home

A cheating spouse will likely be very careful to avoid being caught, but they’re still human. Most cheaters will get careless enough at some point to leave traces of evidence behind. And that can be enough to give you the answers you need if you know what and where to look for it. Start in the closet, but don’t focus on the obvious. Go through the back and check pants, suit jackets, and bag pockets. Even look through shoes for odd items like extra condoms, receipts, business cards, phone numbers, and other unusual items that can confirm your suspicions.

Then carry on to the garage. As long as you’re legally married and on the car lease, you’ll be able to legally access any existing GPS in the vehicle. Check the patterns, especially stops made right before coming home, to see if your spouse was in fact at the drugstore or if they stopped at that cute coworker’s apartment instead. You can even plant a small bugging device under the driver’s seat to hear phone calls or other private conversations. But be forewarned, that is just for your personal knowledge and it can’t be legally used in court.

Dive Into the Devices

Smartphones have become a basic requirement in American culture, and the US ranks third globally with over 300 million cell phones currently in use. With the current employment challenges, more and more adults are also spending their days and nights wrapped up in their tablets and laptops. But it’s not just work that draws people into their devices. COVID has led to an uptick in online connections, liaisons, and affairs. And according to YouGov, 17% of adults who currently use dating apps admit to using them to cheat on their current partners.

The good news is that your spouse can’t be on their devices 24/7. The bad news is that if they’re locked or history is scoured on a regular basis, chances are they’re intentionally attempting to cover their tracks. If you’re concerned, check the devices. Be aware that you won’t be able to use the information in court if you find it without their permission. But you will have the answers you need and deserve.

Call In the Pros

Infidelity is responsible for up to 40% of divorces. And while 70% or more couples do survive the offense, most of those marriages end up empty and unhappy. You have every right to know the truth, but finding it out on your own can be emotionally exhausting, lead to extreme mental anguish, and in some cases even be dangerous. Why not avoid the trouble altogether and call in the pros? Professional Michigan spousal surveillance can get the answers you need so you can focus on a healthier and happier future.

Can Your Marriage Survive Infidelity?

Every romantic relationship is different, but discovering you’ve been living with a cheating spouse can be a game-changer for many partners. That level of betrayal can burn deeper than a red-hot poker thrust into the gut and not only lead to emotional and mental issues but also physical health and illness as well as the brain and body fight to comprehend and adjust to the sudden blow. The root concern boils down to one simple question: Can your marriage survive infidelity? And if so, where and how do you start?

Make Sure the Cheating or Affair is Really Over

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Whether your cheating spouse is a serial cheater or the issue involved just one other person, nothing can be fixed or rebuilt until the infidelity truly ends. But be prepared: the affair may have been as simple as a one night stand, but 50% of marital cheating lasts up to one year, and 30% lasts beyond 15 months. There may be some serious emotional attachment or other complications involved, so you need to decide if it’s even worth it to continue. In many cases, it’s simply best to cut your losses and continue as co-parents or even eventual friends.

Dive Into the Truth

Having deep discussions with a cheating spouse can be difficult, especially since affairs are often cloaked in lies. Your spouse is likely going to try to conceal the details about the affair as long as possible, hoping instead to just let it go and move on. But that can’t be done if you want a stronger, more stable relationship. Approximately 64% of marriages survive infidelity, but nearly 80% of those marriages end up being empty and unhappy. Betrayal burns and you deserve answers, so go to counseling together if necessary to get them.

Work on Underlying Issues

Anyone can talk about the issues or play the blame game, but that only gets issues out in the open or continues the argument. Cheating is not an excuse for a troubled marriage, and that trouble is never one-sided. Marriages take work from both spouses, individually and together. So address the issues to discuss and recognize where and when the breakdown occurred, but don’t stop there. Take action to fix those problems, whether they involve finances, work or socializing concerns, parenting differences, intimacy or sexual issues, etc.

Take Matters Into Your Own Hands

A cheating spouse often gets so used to lying that they start to believe their own recreated existence. They may insist the affair was a one-off or that they’ll never do it again. But statistics have shown that if someone cheats, they’re 3.5 times more likely to do it again. Words are fine, actions are better, but proof can change your life. Chances are you’ll have a lot of doubt and uncertainty even if you’re determined to get past the betrayal. The right private investigator infidelity specialist can do wonders for your stress and sanity. Give us a call when you’re ready for the answers you need.