Key Pieces Needed for a Productive Surveillance

In trying to understand if your spouse is cheating one of the best tools you have is your knowledge of their behaviors.  In hiring a private investigator the key items are the “when, where, and who”.  A private investigator is not a psychic and can not tell you the proper time to go out and find that key piece of information that can get you the proof you are in need of.

The “When” – Identifying a time to send an investigator out is second to none in importance.  We have found that keeping detailed notes of times and dates that it is hard to get a hold of your partner that would indicate something may be going on.

The “Where” – Trying to figure out where to start an investigation may be just as troublesome as the time to begin.  If you believe that your partner is being untruthful about their behaviors they may also be untruthful about their whereabouts.  It is best to locate the specific places that they “have to be” in order to guarantee the investigator locating them at this location.

The “Who” – It is our policy at ASG to avoid doing surveillance on third parties but it helps if you have an idea of who the “other” person may be.  This will give the investigator extra ammunition to gather pertinent information for you while they are in the field.

Although it is an emotional time for you to be contacting a private investigator it is important to take a step back and look objectively at the situation.  We, at ASG, do not wish to go out on a whim and risk the chance of being unsuccessful in meeting your goals.  Feel free to contact our office at 888-677-9700 to discuss the many options in your specific case and our investigators will be able to work through these key factors with you.

Husband facing felony charges after reading wife’s email

Caution should always be heeded when you are tempted to do a bit of investigating on your own.  The last thing anyone would want to happen is to find yourself in a situation where you break the law in an attempt to find out if your significant other is cheating on you.  The following excerpt was taken from a news source in Michigan in which the prosecutor’s office is taking a pro-active approach to making sure individuals are aware of the legality of gaining access to a spouse’s email.

“A man could find himself in prison after snooping into his wife’s email account.

Thirty-three-year-old Leon Walker of Rochester Hills said he thought his now ex-wife was having an affair so he broke into her Gmail account.

Walker said Ciara Walker’s e-mails showed that she was indeed having a relationship with one of her ex-husbands.

Ciara Walker filed for divorce, which was granted earlier this month.

The Oakland County Prosecutor has charged Walker with felony computer misuse. A charge typically handed out to prosecute identity theft and stealing trade secrets.”

WXYZ.COM

December 27, 2010

While facing the daunting feeling that your spouse may be straying, it would be a good idea to contact an experienced private investigator who would know the most effective and legal approach to getting you the answers you deserve.  Feel free to contact our office at 888-677-9700 to discuss the many options in your specific case.

“The Internet Busted Up My Marriage”

If your status is ‘separated’ or ‘going through a divorce’ you might want to stay off Facebook.

Social networking sites are causing a sharp increase in divorce and anything you say on your Facebook page or Myspace page can be held against you in court.

Facebook is an incredible resource for finding classmates, co-workers or making new friends. It’s also a way to rekindle old flames. For a lot of couples, that’s landed them in divorce court and given jilted spouses evidence of their partner’s adultery.”

November 4, 2010

WAFF

If you suspect infidelity and are wrapped up in the emotional whirlwind it is crutial that you pay attention to, not only, the warning signs but also the outward actions of your partner.  They may offer you an insight into their thought process and may give you key ammunition for your divorce proceedings.  It is important to understand what can and can not be used against you in the court of law.

To discuss surveillance or internet profiling options with one of our highly trained associates feel free to contact us at 888-677-9700.

Texas Judge Upholds the Use of Key Logging Program on Spouses

When looking for additional ways to gather information to support your thoughts that your partner may be unfaithful it is important that you are aware of the laws governing what can and can not be done legally.

A Texas court has ruled that a husband accused of monitoring his wife’s computer through a keystroke logger did not violate federal wiretapping laws.

Larry Bagley was sued in June by his wife Rhea Bagley, who accused him of surreptitiously placing audio recording devices in their house as well as a software keystroke logger. The Bagleys are in the process of divorcing.

U.S. District Judge Lee Rosenthal ruled on October 18 in favor of the husband, saying that the court was required to follow a Fifth Circuit decision saying that the federal wiretap law known as Title III does not apply to marital relationships.”

Declan McCullagh

October 29, 2010

If you are looking for that missing piece of information that may facilitate a successful surveillance, a key logging program may be a viable option for you.  It is crucial that this be done on a shared computer and not a private or work computer.

For more details or to discuss surveillance options with one of our highly trained associates feel free to contact us at 888-677-9700.

Parental Infidelity and the “No-Harm” Rule in Custody Litigation

The rules in the courtroom are ever changing and it is very crucial for you to understand those cases that are governing your future.  The “No-Harm” Rule started in a few courts but now has expanded from coast to coast.

“When a marriage dissolves, there are often disputes over which parent should be awarded custody of the child or children. In those custody disputes, which are often bifurcated from the rest of the divorce litigation and may be the only unsettled issue remaining in the divorce case, the non-adulterous party sometimes attempts to introduce evidence of the infidelity of the other parent-spouse. Historically, such evidence was admitted because the law presumed that parental infidelity caused harm to children. 2 However, that presumption has been abandoned by most American courts. Today, most American courts refuse to admit evidence of parental infidelity in custody hearings or trials unless there is proof that the parent’s infidelity caused harm to the child. 3 This refusal to admit evidence, herein called the “no-harm” rule or assumption, demonstrates a strong substantive policy that favors avoiding litigation concerning matters of sexual lifestyle and morality over examining evidence concerning the best interests of the child.”

Lynn D Wardle

Fall 2002

Though this court precedent has closed some avenues in custody litigation it is important to speak with your lawyer in your case to understand what can, and needs to, be done in your case.  Here at Advanced Surveillance Group we can offer a full range of services not only in the surveillance arena.  One crucial opening the “No-Harm” Rule leaves behind is the character of the other person involved.  We offer a full range of background investigations that may offer you an insight into whether or not those individuals past would lead the court to view your children as being in harm.

For more details or to discuss background screening options with one of our highly trained associates feel free to contact us at 888-677-9700.

Finally, One less Thing to Worry About

A new Trend in the dating scene that grew extremely fast, and may have burnt out, The Cougar!  New studies have shown the same results, the number of older women searching for younger men has drastically declined.

“For example, the study showed most men desire attractive, young females. Often, they look for a much younger woman to be their partner because aging men are looking for ways to feel better about the inevitable process. Young men, aged 20 to 25, are targeting women their own age or slightly younger. No big news headlines here.

Women on the other hand were different but they didn’t cause a big surprise either. Most of the over 40 women “Cougars” in the study weren’t interested in being on the prowl for “Cubs.” They were seeking an older (and hopefully a wealthier man). These findings argue against the “cougar” craze that has become popular on TV Shows and movies, such as “Sex and the City,” and Courteney Cox’s ABC Television series “Cougar Town.”

August 20, 2010

Full Article – Here

No matter the circumstances that you find yourself in, it is not a good feeling to suspect your spouse is being unfaithful.  Even though the “Cougar” market appears to be shrinking it does not mean your spouses options are.  Feel free to contact our office at 888-677-9700 to discuss the many options in your specific case.

Fighting Against the Mobile Phone Cheater

New Mobile Apps Make Adultery Easier

The Way to Fight Back!

After last week’s post about mobile applications that made adultery easier we have done some digging into the tools out there to aid in investigations of these “PDA” cheaters.  We located the “Iphone Spy Stick” produced by Brickhouse Security that claims to help out people whose significant others have an Iphone.

Besides recovering data such as text messages, calendar appointments, contacts, and pictures, customers can also download the phone’s map history, and discover searched locations and places navigated, including exact GPS coordinates.

Needless to point out, the tool is beyond privy, but those who truly suspect their spouse is messing around may be well entitled to use it.

iPhone Spy Stick also lets you view web history, contacts, and download voice memos.

The data can be saved on any computer or portable storage drive for anytime viewing, and it looks just like an ordinary USB flash drive, so its purpose is not given away at first glance.”

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http://www.brickhousesecurity.com

Although this is a product that we do not sell it offers key information to you as the significant other.  This product may not provide proof of cheating but may facilitate finding the truth.  The hardest part of surveillance is locating the proper time and place to begin the surveillance.  This tool offers you a means to find pertinent times to gather key evidence should you need it.  Feel free to contact our office at 888-677-9700 to discuss the many options in your specific case.

New Mobile Apps Make Adultery Easier

Understanding that adultery has become more and more prevalent may be a concept that is hard for some people to comprehend but with mobile phone applications aimed strictly towards this market may be one contributing factor.  Many of us have heard of applications like TigerText which erases text and phone records after a specific period of time but only a few have heard of AshleyMadison.com’s new application that allows adulterers to set up profiles like Match.com.

Two-timing politicians, take note: cheating has never been easier. AshleyMadison.com, a personals site designed to facilitate extramarital affairs, now boasts slick iPhone and Blackberry versions that help married horndogs find like-minded cheaters within minutes. The new tools are aimed at tech-savvy adulterers wary of leaving tracks on work or home computers. Because the apps are loaded up from phones’ browsers, they leave no electronic trail that suspicious spouses can trace.”

The formula is working. AshleyMadison’s membership has doubled over the past year to 4 million. The Toronto-based site, which takes its name from the two most popular female names in 2001, the year it launched, enjoyed another big boost this week, following Father’s Day, when CEO Noel Biderman says men often feel underappreciated. Traffic to the site tripled on Monday. (Biderman says there’s a similar boost in interest from neglected wives and girlfriends after Valentine’s Day.)”

Jeremy Caplan

Time.com

June 29, 2010

If the world of a cheating spouse is getting more and more technically savvy don’t you believe you should have an equally savvy investigator on your side?  Feel free to contact our office at 888-677-9700 to discuss the many options in your specific case.

Her bigger paycheck may drive him to cheat

There is never a true barometer that can tell you if your spouse will be prone to cheat but increasing amounts of studies have come out to affirm that your husband may be more apt to cheat if you make more man than he does.  A new article published on August 17, 2010 in the Los Angeles Times displays this exact notion.  A variety of explanations for this behavior have been proposed in the article including:

“Being in a relationship with a female partner who earns more than he does can make a man feel less of a man, Cornell University sociologist Christin Munsch told colleagues Monday in Atlanta, Ga., at the annual confab of the American Sociological Assn.  To affirm and restore his battered sense of manhood, a man may feel he needs to go outside the relationship in search of sexual conquest, she said.”

“Now, this can’t be good because, according to Ellen Galinski of the New York-based Families and Work Institute1 in 4 working women now makes at least 10% more than does her husband. In homes with a working woman, her pay accounts for an average of 44% of the household’s income, Galinski says. And her paycheck — be it bigger or smaller than her husband’s — has for many families spelled the difference between survival and disaster in these economic times.”

Melissa Healy

Los Angeles Times

August 17, 2010

While facing the daunting feeling that your spouse may be straying, it would be a good idea to contact an experienced private investigator who would know the most discreet approach to getting you the answers you deserve.  Feel free to contact our office at 888-677-9700 to discuss the many options in your specific case.

Could having an affair save your marriage?

COULD having an affair save your marriage? Michelle, a 38-year-old married legal secretary, thinks so. She met her lover from Bolton through an online extra-marital dating service, and talks frankly to Irma Heger about her double-life. We also ask marriage guidance experts what they think.

“I’VE been married for 10 years and have no children — I’m as happily married as one can be without a sex life, I guess. We haven’t had a regular sex life for about two years now. It was last year when things got too much.

“My husband was working very late and doesn’t pay a lot of attention to me. I work as a legal secretary, and therefore our hours should be similar, but he throws himself into his work like nobody else. Around that time he was coming home at nine every night and would just roll into bed on his return.

“I was on my own a lot and it all just came to a head. I had seen an article in a women’s magazine and decided to join a dating website that specialises in marital dating, Illicit Encounters, because I knew I didn’t want to lie any more than I had to.

“It was a slow process. I joined and then I filled out my profile and after a few weeks I was chatting to people. There is a lot of chat on the site. Everyone is very honest . . . if you’re not interested, you have to say so.

“I was apprehensive until I found that there were so many people in my situation. Then I started to feel comforted by the site. I still do.

“After about a month I got a message from James. He is different to my husband. He has more of a sense of adventure and is less intellectual — in a positive way.

“I had spoken to a lot of guys but it was just friendly chat — nothing progressive. When I started talking to James, I knew I wanted to meet up with him straight away. We just clicked.

“Things just went from there. I knew when I met him that something was going to happen. We went into the city and had a drink downstairs in a fancy hotel. It was fantastic. It had been such a long time since I had been on a date — the preamble was enough! Sparks were flying — though nothing significant happened until our third or fourth date, I can’t remember exactly when.

“James is in a very similar situation, you see. He has a wife who loves him but they haven’t had sex for over a year. I know he has addressed it with her, and suggested that they go to counselling, but she doesn’t want to know.

“My husband and I have talked about counselling, but my husband thinks it is for people who don’t have real problems. He doesn’t regard marital stress with much importance.

“James and I have been seeing each other on and off since then. We meet almost every week, and we email and text between meetings.

“We aren’t ‘in love’ per se. Our relationship is mutually beneficial. He fills me with passion and lust, but that’s it.

“I have already met my soul mate. We are just ‘friends with benefits’. He gives me what I need to be happy and to make my marriage work.

“I miss James when he is away from me, but he is not my husband and I would never leave my husband for him. Our regular meet-ups act as a bolster for my marriage, which I put the majority of my energy in.

“I have a separate SIM card to keep everything away from hubby. It can be difficult to keep things secret but I have enough excuses to roll out now. None of my friends know, although I have online buddies, and my husband and I have quite separate lives and he doesn’t feel the need to ask a lot of questions .

“I do genuinely believe that, were it not for Illicit Encounters, I would have left my husband by now. This way, I can keep things together. I don’t want to throw it all away for the sake of a fling.

“Hopefully James and I will keep things going steadily as they are for as long as we can. Although, should the relationship start to become a burden, it would be curtains. We both know that.

“The other thing I must say is, I think people are more shocked when it’s a woman having an affair. For men it’s easier, for women, we’re always seen as hussies. But I am doing this to keep my marriage together.

“My husband has definitely noticed a difference. I am less stressed now, much more comfortable with the lack of sex, and able to deal with the everyday issues like bills and the mortgage without getting unnecessarily het up — he just doesn’t know why!

“If my husband decided to cheat, I would understand.

“I think if he found out, he would be shocked, but hopefully he would also acknowledge that there were a lot of warning signs he openly ignored. He has openly refused to work on the relationship, so hopefully he could at least see where I was coming from, even if he did not fully understand.”

Rosie Freeman-Jones, from Illicit Encounters, said: “Michelle’s situation is a very common one. She feels she has tried to articulate her problems to her husband, and they have remained unsolved.

“In finding a like-minded lover, she has been able to diffuse her frustrations, and is therefore better equipped to manage her current relationship. As a result, she is much calmer and happier than before.

“Although having an affair may not be the antidote to every unhappy marriage, it is hard to ignore the fact that this woman’s situation has greatly improved since she decide to pursue an extra-marital relationship.”

Catherine Ivatts, sexual therapist and Relate councillor, said: “This is one person’s experience.

“In an affair, there are three people — from the point of view of the person having the affair, it’s working.

“But an affair only works for as long as the other partner doesn’t find out, or the lover doesn’t change the terms and conditions. Usually, after a period of time, something shifts.

“Either the partner who’s not having the affair becomes concerned and suspicious, or the lover’s partner becomes suspicious, or the lover wants to change things and perhaps talks about marriage, or the person having the affair beings the question: ‘Is this what I want?’ “You do get long term affairs that go on for years and years, but usually, in the end, something comes apart.

“Each person will go through different stages in that process. It starts off being desirable, exciting and pleasurable.

“It all works up to a point — it’s like a three-legged stool, if one leg is taken away, it falls down.

“From a therapist’s point of view, we would recommend to have open communication between two partners.

“I haven’t heard of this particular website, but relationships that have started up on the internet, and internet pornography, are a huge part of our work now.

“The internet facilitates a sort of intimacy, but it’s not a long term intimacy — a lot of it is imaginary, you just see an aspect of a person.

“With an affair, you see a bit of a person — the challenge of marriage is you have to love a person, warts and all.”

* Michelle and James’ names have been changed.