5 Reasons Why Married People Cheat

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Most people who opt to marry nowadays do so with the hope of “happily ever after” with one partner. Very rarely is an alternative even conceptualized outside of the initial prenup planning. So, why would someone choose to cheat? While some studies claim 20% of American singles and up to 9% of married couples have entertained polyamory or open relationship concepts, the majority of partners still expect lifelong, or at least long-term, loyalty. Marital infidelity does occur, however, and if your spouse has been showing the following signs, it may be time to consider calling in the pros to help catch a cheating spouse. 

Different Attachment Styles

Poor self-esteem or over-confidence can lead to clinginess or detachment in a marriage. Over time, couples can become more like roommates and desire more or less attachment to their partner. If it’s mutual, that’s one thing. But more often, one partner feels undesired, unattractive, or develops a connection elsewhere instead of discussing the changes and options with their spouse.

Influences and Exposure to Infidelity

Divorce is not uncommon, but the reasons for parental or family divorce can help determine the rates of the involved children’s’ eventual marital success. In fact, studies have proven that kids who have been exposed to marital infidelity are twice as likely to cheat or be a victim of infidelity later in life. In those specific cases, the apple may not fall far from the proverbial tree.

Lack of Sexual Satisfaction

Divorce has actually been on the decline since the 1980s when the 50% divorce rate statistic took hold. According to BLS and census reports, closer to 39% of marriages end in divorce today and most of those divorces state lack of sex or sexual dissatisfaction as a primary reason for marital issues. While the initial reasons for looking elsewhere may include other issues, both men and women who cheat outside their marriage desire a more active sex life at one point or another.

The Need for Emotional Validation

Both men and women are emotional creatures, and sometimes the act of infidelity starts off as an external connection to regain the emotional validation the partner feels they lost in the marriage. The need for such validation might stem from lack of communication or intimacy from their partner, perceived body images, aging concerns, and overall lack of appreciation for what the cheating spouse does do within the household or for the family unit or simply for their partner. But this reason for infidelity, specifically, can be dangerous to the marriage since its root cause is the need for a deeper emotional connection that has been lost or can no longer be obtained within the marital relationship.

Boredom

Every relationship enters a stage where boredom is a concern and most of the time that’s a simple issue that can be corrected with some therapeutic assistance, extra attention, or a little spice. But in some cases, it leads to one partner seeking excitement elsewhere. Regardless of the reasons for the affair, the signs are likely flashing too bright to be ignored. When you’re tired of making or hearing excuses, give ASG Investigations a call to begin Michigan spousal surveillance and get the answers you need.  

Best Private Investigator Tips for Catching a Cheater

While there are several types of relationships, no one falls in love and enters a mutually exclusive lifelong committed relationship with the idea of cheating down the road. But adultery is still a major reason for divorce. In most states, it’s barely a legal excuse, often resulting in a misdemeanor or minor fine at best–and that’s if it’s even pursued by the victim. Michigan’s a bit different. While it is a no-fault divorce state, adultery has been listed as a statewide crime since 1931 and it still can be charged as a felony today. Of course, the betrayed spouse rarely follows up on it to that degree. In most cases, the partner who discovers the infidelity simply wants out of the marriage or relationship but needs the proof to do so. Fortunately, a Michigan private investigator can help you catch a cheating spouse.

Dive
Into Tech Traces

According
to national research, approximately 92% of adult mobile users connect to the internet daily
and over 30% of those with mobile devices are constantly connected. Online
connections are some of the most damaging extramarital relationships because
once a partner connects emotionally to someone else, they’ve usually basically
checked out of the marriage. There are often telltale signs of online
infidelity, including spending extra time on their devices, and suddenly hiding
or locking their phone. Even if they’ve covered their tracks, technology leaves
trails. So texts, phone records, and email can be reclaimed and collected as
personal or legal evidence if you catch it in time.

Journal
Your Findings

Cheating
spouses can be tricky and attempt to keep things offline, but their behavior
can still change in minor but consistent ways. Keep a journal or written record
of notable changes to see if a pattern builds. Write down when business trips
become more frequent or how many extra nights a week your spouse is working
later than usual. Pay more attention to bank records and jot down details
regarding spikes in monetary withdrawals. And pay closer attention to how often
they offer to leave the house. Write down the times, days, and length of time
they’re gone. Once caught, cheaters often try to lie or confuse their way out
of trouble so those records can help keep you focused on the facts. 

Keep
It Legal

Most states have serious privacy laws in place, and even those
in the gray areas can be argued in favor of their client by good legal
representation. This covers more than just sneaking a peek into your spouse’s
text messages. Bugging their car or office, hacking into social media accounts,
and making hard copies of their emails may get you physical proof of the
affair, but it may also have you facing litigation charges down the road. Michigan
spousal surveillance
can be done confidentially, correctly and legally by
the right professional Michigan private investigator. So there’s really no need
to increase your stress levels and make unnecessary mistakes by doing it all on
your own. 

Prepare
for the Unexpected

The goal of a private investigator is to discover and deliver the truth to their client, regardless of what that proof discloses. There may be some uncomfortable discoveries along the way and you’ll need to prepare yourself for that reality. While you may think you’re on the road to catch a cheating spouse, you may instead or also uncover hidden money issues, family problems, addictions, or other illegal activities. Try to avoid assuming the worst without definitive proof. And if you can’t find it on your own, be sure to give us a call.

Key Pieces Needed for a Productive Surveillance

 

Productive Surveillance

Productive Surveillance is paramount to a cheating spouse investigation.  In trying to understand if your spouse is cheating one of the best tools you have is your knowledge of their behaviors.  In hiring a private investigator the key items are the “when, where, and who”.  A private investigator is not a psychic and can not tell you the proper time to go out and find that key piece of information that can get you the proof you are in need of.

The “When” – Identifying a time to send an investigator out is second to none in importance.  We have found that keeping detailed notes of times and dates that it is hard to get a hold of your partner that would indicate something may be going on.

The “Where” – Trying to figure out where to start an investigation may be just as troublesome as the time to begin.  If you believe that your partner is being untruthful about their behaviors they may also be untruthful about their whereabouts.  It is best to locate the specific places that they “have to be” in order to guarantee the investigator locating them at this location.

The “Who” – It is our policy at ASG to avoid doing surveillance on third parties but it helps if you have an idea of who the “other” person may be.  This will give the investigator extra ammunition to gather pertinent information for you while they are in the field.

Although it is an emotional time for you to be contacting a private investigator it is important to take a step back and look objectively at the situation.  We, at ASG, do not wish to go out on a whim and risk the chance of being unsuccessful in meeting your goals.  Feel free to contact our office at 888-677-9700 to discuss the many options in your specific case and our investigators will be able to work through these key factors with you.

If you think you need help learning how to run a Productive Surveillance feel free to contact us.

Husband facing felony charges after reading wife’s email

A Michigan man is facing charges after reading wife’s email. Caution should always be heeded when you are tempted to do a bit of investigating on your own.  The last thing anyone would want to happen is to find yourself in a situation where you break the law in an attempt to find out if your significant other is cheating on you.  The following excerpt was taken from a news source in Michigan in which the prosecutor’s office is taking a pro-active approach to making sure individuals are aware of the legality of gaining access to a spouse’s email.

“A man could find himself in prison after snooping into his wife’s email account.

Thirty-three-year-old Leon Walker of Sterling Heights said he thought his now ex-wife was having an affair so he broke into her Gmail account.

Walker said Ciara Walker’s e-mails showed that she was indeed having a relationship with one of her ex-husbands.

Ciara Walker filed for divorce, which was granted earlier this month.

The Oakland County Prosecutor has charged Walker with felony computer misuse. A charge typically handed out to prosecute identity theft and stealing trade secrets.”

WXYZ.COM

December 27, 2010

While facing the daunting feeling that your spouse may be straying, it would be a good idea to contact an experienced private investigator who would know the most effective and legal approach to getting you the answers you deserve.  Feel free to contact our office at 888-677-9700 to discuss the many options in your specific case.

The Internet Can Cause a Busted Marriage

unfaithful gay spouseSocial media sites can lead to a busted marriage.

If your status is ‘separated’ or ‘going through a divorce’ you might want to stay off Facebook.

Social networking sites are causing a sharp increase in divorce and anything you say on your Facebook page or Myspace page can be held against you in court.

Facebook is an incredible resource for finding classmates, co-workers or making new friends. It’s also a way to rekindle old flames. For a lot of couples, that’s landed them in divorce court and given jilted spouses evidence of their partner’s adultery.”

November 4, 2010

WAFF

If you suspect infidelity and are wrapped up in the emotional whirlwind it is crucial that you pay attention to, not only, the warning signs but also the outward actions of your partner.  They may offer you an insight into their thought process and may give you key ammunition for your divorce proceedings.  It is important to understand what can and can not be used against you in the court of law.

To discuss surveillance or internet profiling options with one of our highly trained associates feel free to contact us at 888-677-9700.

Texas Judge Upholds the Use of Key Logging Program on Spouse

Texas Judge Upholds the Use of Key Logging Program on Spouse

When looking for additional ways to gather information to support your thoughts that your partner may be unfaithful it is important that you are aware of the laws governing what can and can not be done legally. In this case, the use of key logging program on spouse upholds in Texas.

A Texas court has ruled that a husband accused of monitoring his wife’s computer through a keystroke logger did not violate federal wiretapping laws.

Larry Bagley was sued in June by his wife Rhea Bagley, who accused him of surreptitiously placing audio recording devices in their house as well as a software keystroke logger. The Bagleys are in the process of divorcing.

U.S. District Judge Lee Rosenthal ruled on October 18 in favor of the husband, saying that the court was required to follow a Fifth Circuit decision saying that the federal wiretap law known as Title III does not apply to marital relationships.”

Declan McCullagh

October 29, 2010

If you are looking for that missing piece of information that may facilitate a successful surveillance, a key logging program may be a viable option for you.  It is crucial that this be done on a shared computer and not a private or work computer.

For more details or to discuss surveillance options with one of our highly trained associates feel free to contact us at 888-677-9700.

Parental Infidelity and the “No-Harm” Rule in Custody Litigation

The rules in the courtroom are ever changing when it comes to parental infidelity and it is very crucial for you to understand those cases that are governing your future.  The “No-Harm” Rule started in a few courts but now has expanded from coast to coast.

“When a marriage dissolves, there are often disputes over which parent should be awarded custody of the child or children. In those custody disputes, which are often bifurcated from the rest of the divorce litigation and may be the only unsettled issue remaining in the divorce case, the non-adulterous party sometimes attempts to introduce evidence of the infidelity of the other parent-spouse. Historically, such evidence was admitted because the law presumed that parental infidelity caused harm to children. 2 However, that presumption has been abandoned by most American courts. Today, most American courts refuse to admit evidence of parental infidelity in custody hearings or trials unless there is proof that the parent’s infidelity caused harm to the child. 3 This refusal to admit evidence, herein called the “no-harm” rule or assumption, demonstrates a strong substantive policy that favors avoiding litigation concerning matters of sexual lifestyle and morality over examining evidence concerning the best interests of the child.”

Lynn D Wardle

Fall 2002

Though this court precedent has closed some avenues in custody litigation it is important to speak with your lawyer in your case to understand what can, and needs to, be done in your case.  Here at Advanced Surveillance Group we can offer a full range of services not only in the surveillance arena.  One crucial opening the “No-Harm” Rule leaves behind is the character of the other person involved.  We offer a full range of background investigations that may offer you an insight into whether or not those individuals past would lead the court to view your children as being in harm.

For more details or to discuss background screening options with one of our highly trained associates feel free to contact us at 888-677-9700.

The Cougar

A new trend in the dating scene that grew extremely fast, and may have burnt out, The Cougar!  New studies have shown the same results, the number of older women searching for younger men has drastically declined.

“For example, the study showed most men desire attractive, young females. Often, they look for a much younger woman to be their partner because aging men are looking for ways to feel better about the inevitable process. Young men, aged 20 to 25, are targeting women their own age or slightly younger. No big news headlines here.

Women on the other hand were different but they didn’t cause a big surprise either. Most of the over 40 women “Cougars” in the study weren’t interested in being on the prowl for “Cubs.” They were seeking an older (and hopefully a wealthier man). These findings argue against the “cougar” craze that has become popular on TV Shows and movies, such as “Sex and the City,” and Courteney Cox’s ABC Television series “Cougar Town.”

August 20, 2010

Full Article – Here

No matter the circumstances that you find yourself in, it is not a good feeling to suspect your spouse is being unfaithful.  Even though the “Cougar” market appears to be shrinking it does not mean your spouses options are.  Feel free to contact our office at 888-677-9700 to discuss the many options in your specific case.

Fighting Against Mobile Phone Cheaters

New Mobile Apps Make Adultery Easier

The Way to Fight Back Against Mobile Phone Cheaters!

After last week’s post about mobile applications that made adultery easier for mobile phone cheaters, we have done some digging into the tools out there to aid in investigations of these “PDA” cheaters.  We located the “Iphone Spy Stick” produced by Brickhouse Security that claims to help out people whose significant others have an Iphone.

Besides recovering data such as text messages, calendar appointments, contacts, and pictures, customers can also download the phone’s map history, and discover searched locations and places navigated, including exact GPS coordinates.

Needless to point out, the tool is beyond privy, but those who truly suspect their spouse is messing around may be well entitled to use it.

iPhone Spy Stick also lets you view web history, contacts, and download voice memos.

The data can be saved on any computer or portable storage drive for anytime viewing, and it looks just like an ordinary USB flash drive, so its purpose is not given away at first glance.”

 

Visit Brickhouse Security for More Info

http://www.brickhousesecurity.com

Although this is a product that we do not sell it offers key information to you as the significant other.  This product may not provide proof of cheating but may facilitate finding the truth.  The hardest part of surveillance is locating the proper time and place to begin the surveillance.  This tool offers you a means to find pertinent times to gather key evidence should you need it.  Feel free to contact our office at 888-677-9700 to discuss the many options in your specific case.

New Mobile Apps Make Adultery Easier

Understanding that adultery has become more and more prevalent may be a concept that is hard for some people to comprehend but with mobile phone applications aimed strictly towards this market may be one contributing factor.  Many of us have heard of applications like TigerText which erases text and phone records after a specific period of time but only a few have heard of AshleyMadison.com’s new application that allows adulterers to set up profiles like Match.com.

Two-timing politicians, take note: cheating has never been easier. AshleyMadison.com, a personals site designed to facilitate extramarital affairs, now boasts slick iPhone and Blackberry versions that help married horndogs find like-minded cheaters within minutes. The new tools are aimed at tech-savvy adulterers wary of leaving tracks on work or home computers. Because the apps are loaded up from phones’ browsers, they leave no electronic trail that suspicious spouses can trace.”

 

The formula is working. AshleyMadison’s membership has doubled over the past year to 4 million. The Toronto-based site, which takes its name from the two most popular female names in 2001, the year it launched, enjoyed another big boost this week, following Father’s Day, when CEO Noel Biderman says men often feel underappreciated. Traffic to the site tripled on Monday. (Biderman says there’s a similar boost in interest from neglected wives and girlfriends after Valentine’s Day.)”

 

Jeremy Caplan

Time.com

June 29, 2010

If the world of a cheating spouse is getting more and more technically savvy don’t you believe you should have an equally savvy investigator on your side?  Feel free to contact our office at 888-677-9700 to discuss the many options in your specific case.