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Popular Oz tourism destinations ‘hotbeds for infidelity’!

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MELBOURNE – A new study has found that popular Aussie tourism destinations are fast becoming hotbeds for infidelity.

According to the Cairns Post, locales where tourism is the predominant industry could harbour major problems for married couples, particularly when faced with an influx of randy holidaymakers.

University of Otago researcher Dr Linda Malam, whose original study was based on surveys of women in southern Thailand, said popular tourism destinations such as Cairns has come to be regarded as “sexually transgressive” zones, with holiday trysts an integral part of backpacking experiences.

In the case of both local men and women straying from their partners, there was a higher potential these sexual indiscretions could be hidden away from the prying eyes of friends and family members.

“They’re obviously out of the surveillance zone of their friends and family,” News.com.au quoted Dr Malam as saying.

“The implications of their sexual liaisons and trysts are minimal as long as they practice safe sex. Many people see their backpacking experience as a real hiatus from ordinary life,” she said.

Dr Malam said the temptation to stray from a partner appeared to be far greater for those who worked in the diving industry.

“For men who work in the diving industry, I really think there is a high potentiality for problems there,” she said.

“Working in the tourism industry, you’ve got a high potentiality to meet people who are sexually available and looking for new sexual experiences and you’re working in occupations that have high desirability in that sexual economy,” she added.

Dr Malam’s research was presented at the Institute of Australian Geographers Conference, held at James Cook University in Cairns this week. (ANI)

 

Source: http://www.topnews.in/popular-oz-tourism-destinations-hotbeds-infidelity-2219207

Roots of Infidelity in Some

Where to the roots of infidelity start? Roots of InfidelityWe read a very interesting piece about infidelity in USA Today, written by Sharon Jayson that is worth a read for anyone trying to better understand why infidelity occurs. Here is a great quote from that piece:

“Ambition and narcissism are occupational hazards for all political leaders,” says Stanley Renshon, a political psychologist at City University of New York and author of books dealing with psychological issues and political behavior. “Infidelity is a byproduct of narcissism.”

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Idiot Elected Offical in CA Brags about Affair with Married Lobbyist on Live Microphone Before Hearing

As reported on Zimbio

The news coming out of Orange County today about a steamy affair between Heidi DeJong Barsuglia and Assemblyman Michael Duvall will probably wreck both of their careers, but it’s not all bad. There’s a bit of education to be gained from all of this, such as the lesson that any would-be politicians should be careful about bragging about extramarital sexual exploits into a live microphone.

Heidi Barsuglia is probably not a fan of live microphones. (cawaste.org) As broken by the OC Weekly, in July of this year, Michael D. Duvall, Orange County’s 72nd Assembly District representative, sat in a public hearing and graphically described the lobbyist, Heidi Barsuglia, he was having an affair with. Midway through his his verbal Penthouse letter, the microphone in front of him went live, and the Orange County Cassanova’s tale went live to the entire dias.

Unaware, Duvall continued to tell his colleague, “She wears little eye-patch underwear. So, the other day she came here with her underwear, Thursday. And so, we had made love Wednesday–a lot! And so she’ll, she’s all, ‘I am going up and down the stairs, and you’re dripping out of me!’ So messy!”

Virginia Man Wore a Sign Admitting His Infidelity in Public

A Virginia man wore a sign admitting his infidelity in public at the request of his wife, it has emerged.

The man from Centreville spent Wednesday morning at the busy Tysons Corner crossroad wearing a large placard emblazoned with the words, ‘I cheated. This is my punishment’.

The idea was suggested by his wife found after she found evidence of his infidelity on his mobile phone.

He told a local Fox affiliate: “I thought she was kidding, but she was serious. I figured I got to do what I got to do to makes things right. So here I am.”

After two hours, the unnamed woman reportedly telephoned him to tell him that his punishment was complete.

Source Obtained: http://www.digitalspy.com/fun/news/a174335/husband-wears-i-cheated-sign-in-public/

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“Faking Your Own Kidnapping While Cheating” Is The New Infidelity

Apparently unaware of the many ways this could backfire terribly, Wikler Moran-Mora, pastor of the Seventh Day Adventist Church of Reform in Tampa, FL, faked his own kidnapping so he could two-time his wife. According to police, Moran-Mora texted his wife last Tuesday evening to say he had been kidnapped, but that she should not worry because he was working to get released. But when police tracked down Moran-Mora’s location via his cell phone, they discovered “negotiating with kidnappers” actually meant “boning another woman.” The pastor has been charged with filing a false police report—and coming up with a really bad alibi.

But Moran-Mora actually isn’t the first genius who got caught being a liar, liar, pants on fire. A trip down memory lane, after the jump:

  • A Guatemalan woman faked her own kidnapping so she could stay in Spain with her lover. She texted her husband back home in Guatemala to say she’d been kidnapped and sexually assaulted. Her husband called the Embassy of Spain in Guatemala and they arranged for Spanish police to look for her. Police discovered the woman in Barcelona with no injuries at all. She admitted the whole “kidnapped and raped” story was made up.
  • Who could forget Mark Sanford, the married South Carolina governor whose affair with an Argentine woman dominated headlines? Although Sanford didn’t lie and say he had been kidnapped, he did lie and say he’d been hiking on the Appalachian Trail when he was actually south of the border with his mistress. The alibi might have worked if only someone had not recognized him at an airport. But maybe if Sanford hadn’t been found out, he would have cried kidnapping, too.

 

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Jailed Ponzi King Bernie Madoff Also Infidelity King

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Ponzi King and Infidelity King?

 

Jailed Ponzi King Bernie Madoff had flings with numerous secretaries that frequently ended with hush-hush settlements, according to Jerry Oppenheimer’s new book, “Madoff With the Money.”The New York Post quotes a female veteran Madoff employee telling Oppenheimer that “He had affairs in the office. There were two women I know of. They were gorgeous. They were blond. They were young. They were like baby Ruths — the same type as Ruth, with the same hair color and eye color.”

Another Madoff insider said, “Ruth (his wife) told him to stop [playing around], but he started having affairs all over the place,” adding that Madoff would often give his girls cards with his private cellphone number on them.

One young secretary even netted a 250,000 dollar payoff to keep quiet, according to Oppenheimer.

 

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Online Service Makes Cheating Easier Than Ever

By Audrey Dutton

“Don’t let his flashy smile get to you!” an anonymous woman writes on DontDateHimGirl.com about her ex-lover Kevin. He’s married, she cautions, telling any woman who meets him to “run, run as fast as you can, and don’t look back.”

But wait. It seems another spurned lover has the same warning. “He had told me that he was separated from his wife, but I found out differently,” she writes. “Sometimes when his wife called, he would tell her that he had to work late, so that we could go out or just have sex somewhere.”

Heard enough? Well, a third woman delivers the same account, with palpable grief. She writes that the word “hurt” doesn’t come close to expressing her feelings.

Then the alleged adulterer responds. “There is an article about me on your Web site that is very untrue,” Kevin’s rebuttal says, adding his (now defunct) e-mail address. “The woman that wrote this is my very psychotic neighbor who is married and tried 3 years ago to get me into a threesome with her and her husband.”

That woman’s husband offers his side of the story, too.

It looks like the he-saids and she-saids won’t end soon.

The American Association of Marriage and Family Therapy estimates that 35 to 45 percent of all American marriages bear the burden of emotional or sexual infidelity. As the online dating market grows, so do the opportunities for cheating on a partner. Enter two services, one for those doing the cheating and another for those who have been cheated on: Alibi Network and DontDateHimGirl.com. While one company goes to great lengths to conceal affairs, the other exposes cheaters to the world.

The Alibi Network is a small Chicago-based company whose sole purpose is to construct alibis. Consultants devise cover-ups for any legal activity, from calling in sick to work–a popular service on the Monday after the Super Bowl–to “virtual employment” for those who are embarrassed to be jobless.

However, covering up infidelities makes up the bulk of the service. Fifty percent of clients want to hide an affair, with men and women equally likely to seek alibis. The Alibi Network has no moral qualms about its service. “We don’t judge,” said Mike DeMarco, spokesman for the company. “If we get emotionally involved, we’re doing our client a disservice.”

“That’s deplorable!” gasped Tasha Jacobs, a public relations specialist from Miami. “Unbelievable.”

While the Alibi Network deals in lies, Jacobs’ company tries to expose the liars. Her Web site, DontDateHimGirl.com, is intended “to get guys to change their behavior,” she said, “or at least think twice before they cheat because they know there are consequences.”

DontDateHimGirl.com is a database with a heavy salting of scandalous drama. Angry and brokenhearted lovers can post allegations of betrayal, stamping their exes with a virtual scarlet letter. The exes can try to clear their name with a rebuttal, but the mark is already made. The site gives full names, photographs and identifying information like age and location.

As a result, Jacobs’ site draws ample controversy. Earlier this year, one woman asked Jacobs to remove her accusations about a cheating ex-boyfriend after a judge ordered her to stop publicly airing complaints. And the Web site’s blog, which highlights “cheaters of the day,” is peppered with questions from readers, blaming the women for choosing bad boys and wondering about the proof behind anonymous accusations.

Jacobs says she vets all submissions, often calling or e-mailing women to ask for solid evidence, like telephone records. And before a woman can submit her story, she must agree to the DontDateHimGirl.com terms of user policy, stating that she is telling the truth.

Amid the controversy, the site is growing, with more than 1,100 alleged cheater profiles. Jacobs hopes the database will help women judge whether a potential suitor is bad news.

In mid-March, Jacobs will launch the sister–or brother–site, DontDateHerMan.com. “It was only fair,” she said. Plus, “all of my guy friends convinced me to do it.”

DontDateHimGirl.com is not the only Web site of its kind. TrueDater.com, UnfaithfulPeople.com and WomanSavers.com also list alleged cheaters by the thousands.

This is where the Alibi Network finds its market: When wandering-eyed mates fear that their rendezvous might be exposed, they turn to the network. After less than a year, the Alibi Network is already turning a profit, and DeMarco says no clients have reported getting caught.

Their alibis are high tech and elaborate, but affordable. A cover-up phone call to an unsuspecting spouse costs $25 to $50. Shopping discreetly for a ski trip with the mistress? That costs $35. And an e-mail alibi starts at $10.

Ongoing alibis, however, are the most detailed. If a client wants to sneak off for a weekend rendezvous with a lover, the Alibi Network can send him a faux job offer letter, under the guise of its partner company, along with an invitation to a weekend training session. To corroborate the lie, consultants create a Web site for a fake hotel, where the duped significant other can call a fake hotel desk. The fake clerk? That’s an Alibi Network operator. The company even patches telephone calls home, to look like they come from Chicago, Manhattan, Los Angeles–anywhere in the United States.

The monetary price for creating this illusion “depends on individual circumstances,” the company said.

But the personal price of cheating, says one relationship ethicist, is far deeper.

“A lot of people lead double lives,” said Elaine Englehardt, a Utah Valley State College philosophy professor and relationship ethics expert. “I do think they have a fractured sense of the world, a fractured personality.” She said that self-deception plays a large role in affairs, on the part of both partners. It is common for cheated-on spouses to ignore their suspicions. And when the affair is hidden so well that one partner finds out years later, she said, it’s even worse: “The other spouse feels like such a fool.”

Englehardt does not necessarily agree with outing a cheating partner on DontDateHimGirl.com, either. “I wouldn’t use the service, but I think there are those who will use it and those who will abuse it,” she said, adding that single women often consult the grapevine when trying to figure out a date’s track record. The database, she said, isn’t much different from that.

Does she think the database is ethical? “You’re responsible for making your own judgments about what’s going on around you,” she said, so take the stories with a grain of salt. But, she added, it’s important to learn as much as possible about a prospective partner.

As for using the Alibi Network, Englehardt isn’t so approving. “The better thing is for a person to look at [the affair] and say, ‘Is this the type of person I really want to be?’” Instead of covering up an affair, she wrote in an e-mail, “just confess, save the relationship and try to move on.”

When asked if he thinks his company’s services are unconscionable, DeMarco said, “It’s almost like if we’re brick makers.” The distinction, he said, is whether that brick is used to smash a windshield or build a house. “We’re a service. We’re here for people to use how they please.”

Englehardt offered a different analogy: “Like a brick to a crumbling house is how I’d put it,” she said.

Four Wisconsin women use Krazy Glue to get even with Cheating Spouse

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Four Wisconsin women use Krazy Glue to get even with Cheating Spouse

A married man who planned to rendezvous with one of his handful of lovers at a Wisconsin motel instead found himself bound, blindfolded and assaulted by a group of women out for revenge, according to court documents.

Four women, including his wife, eventually showed up to humiliate the man, who ended up with his penis glued to his stomach to punish him for a lover’s quadrangle gone bad, according to the documents filed in Calumet County.

Now it’s the women who face punishment, perhaps six years in prison, and at least one said Monday she’s embarrassed now.

AP coverage

 

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Tennessee Senator has Affair with Intern and Resigns

The Tennessee state senator said he was opposed to sex outside marriage, but his private life told a different story: He was having an affair with his 22-year-old intern.When an extortion plot exposed married Republican Sen. Paul Stanley’s illicit relationship, he said he would be “clearing up” misimpressions later. He’s now clearing out his office, the latest politician caught in a sex scandal, this one made worse by not coming clean.

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Can There be a Happy Marriage After an Affair?

We all know what happens when couples split after an affair, but what happens to those couples who decide to stay together after an affair? Most pairs who have worked through and resolved their betrayal trauma can enjoy a lifelong happy marriage. For some, overcoming this crisis bonds them for life in a healthier marriage.

Do not assume that an affair automatically implies an end to your marriage.

Understand that physical, emotional or online connection is a betrayal of your spouse.

Treat infidelity as a major relationship trauma to be overcome through openness, talks and treatment toward a recommitment to each other.

Recall the nature of your marriage prior to your infidelity. If you have been previously satisfied and feel repentance, you can, with therapy, rebuild your marriage. Ecstasy is short-lived, commitment is rewarding for life.

Understand that your partner’s infidelity is his/her personal weakness — not a reflection on you. Seek the depth of your forgiveness.

Use professional help to facilitate your reunification work.

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