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Cyber Affairs Increase During COVID Quarantine

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What some couples originally considered harmless flirting has evolved into full-on cyber affairs during the quarantine period since Covid struck. The first confirmed case of Covid19 hit the US on January 19, 2020. And since then, life has changed for most Americans and practically turned inside-out for many. While health, security, and financial concerns are all points of serious concern, marital relationships also land high on the list. Regardless of how, why, or when an affair occurs, the act can lead to feelings of ultimate betrayal that simply can’t be corrected. But why are these relationship changes so common and what can you do if you suspect you’re dealing with a cheating spouse at home?

So Many Americans Now Work from Home

As of June, around 40% of Americans were working at home due to the pandemic, and that number has likely increased quite a bit since new resurgences and lockdowns have come into play. That means adults are spending much more time on their tech devices than they were as early as the end of 2019. It’s far easier now to make excuses for that extra online time by claiming more Zoom meetings, client emails, and social media time are necessary… for work.

Socialization Is at an All-Time Low

Weddings, special events, parties and ceremonies, even hanging out with friends have all been limited throughout 2020. Indoor gatherings are permitted in most states, but usually in maximum groups of 10 and only then if everyone wears a mask and stands at least 6 feet away from each other. At some point, most people want and need to talk to someone besides those in their household, especially if and when tensions there are high. Connecting with someone else online in a similar situation can easily lead to more than just venting.

Spousal Distancing is Trending

Chances are, when you promised to take your partner until death, you didn’t mean locked in your house together for 24-hours daily for months at a time due to a global pandemic. Few people outside of dystopian writers or science fiction junkies would spend more than a few minutes lost in those thoughts prior to 2020. Marital breakdowns due to ongoing microaggressions are all-too-common after years or building a life together. But quarantine periods add serious fuel to those fires and tend to fast-forward spousal distancing. If you or your spouse are refusing or blocking intimacy or sexual attention during this time, they may attempt to find it elsewhere.

A Cheating Spouse May Consider Their Behavior to Be Self-Care

Infidelity is not just physical. In fact, digital connections may actually be as damaging, if not more so than physical affairs because they often start off and continue as an emotional connection and affair. Of course, a cheating spouse may claim a totally different viewpoint–at least to try to stay out of trouble. According to a national report by AshleyMadison, over 50% of married couples are spending more time together than they ever have while 75% of couples’ sexual patterns are worse than before the pandemic hit. The cheating website has received an uptick in membership with 30% of women opting for online affairs compared to 15% of men.

Most of those users have no real plans to leave their marriage but consider their behavior to be “self-care”. You don’t have to agree with that and you definitely don’t have to live with that decision either. But you do have a right to know what your spouse is really up to in the other room. When you’re ready for answers, Michigan spousal surveillance can help you uncover the truth.

Best Private Investigator Tips for Catching a Cheater

While there are several types of relationships, no one falls in love and enters a mutually exclusive lifelong committed relationship with the idea of cheating down the road. But adultery is still a major reason for divorce. In most states, it’s barely a legal excuse, often resulting in a misdemeanor or minor fine at best–and that’s if it’s even pursued by the victim. Michigan’s a bit different. While it is a no-fault divorce state, adultery has been listed as a statewide crime since 1931 and it still can be charged as a felony today. Of course, the betrayed spouse rarely follows up on it to that degree. In most cases, the partner who discovers the infidelity simply wants out of the marriage or relationship but needs the proof to do so. Fortunately, a Michigan private investigator can help you catch a cheating spouse.

Dive
Into Tech Traces

According
to national research, approximately 92% of adult mobile users connect to the internet daily
and over 30% of those with mobile devices are constantly connected. Online
connections are some of the most damaging extramarital relationships because
once a partner connects emotionally to someone else, they’ve usually basically
checked out of the marriage. There are often telltale signs of online
infidelity, including spending extra time on their devices, and suddenly hiding
or locking their phone. Even if they’ve covered their tracks, technology leaves
trails. So texts, phone records, and email can be reclaimed and collected as
personal or legal evidence if you catch it in time.

Journal
Your Findings

Cheating
spouses can be tricky and attempt to keep things offline, but their behavior
can still change in minor but consistent ways. Keep a journal or written record
of notable changes to see if a pattern builds. Write down when business trips
become more frequent or how many extra nights a week your spouse is working
later than usual. Pay more attention to bank records and jot down details
regarding spikes in monetary withdrawals. And pay closer attention to how often
they offer to leave the house. Write down the times, days, and length of time
they’re gone. Once caught, cheaters often try to lie or confuse their way out
of trouble so those records can help keep you focused on the facts. 

Keep
It Legal

Most states have serious privacy laws in place, and even those
in the gray areas can be argued in favor of their client by good legal
representation. This covers more than just sneaking a peek into your spouse’s
text messages. Bugging their car or office, hacking into social media accounts,
and making hard copies of their emails may get you physical proof of the
affair, but it may also have you facing litigation charges down the road. Michigan
spousal surveillance
can be done confidentially, correctly and legally by
the right professional Michigan private investigator. So there’s really no need
to increase your stress levels and make unnecessary mistakes by doing it all on
your own. 

Prepare
for the Unexpected

The goal of a private investigator is to discover and deliver the truth to their client, regardless of what that proof discloses. There may be some uncomfortable discoveries along the way and you’ll need to prepare yourself for that reality. While you may think you’re on the road to catch a cheating spouse, you may instead or also uncover hidden money issues, family problems, addictions, or other illegal activities. Try to avoid assuming the worst without definitive proof. And if you can’t find it on your own, be sure to give us a call.